Every person alive faces a similar fate. Many avoid thinking about it.
Oddly, I escaped the hardest facts of life until age 75 last summer, when my only son, Kevin, died at age 43.
Suddenly I realized the ancient truth that the death of your children almost always hurts more than deaths of parents, grandparents and all others.
Parents often blame themselves for not saving their children from whatever danger may have killed them.
My wife, Jerry, keeps reminding me we did our best, under the circumstances. She said we should not blame ourselves for what is done and cannot be undone.
We appreciate our minister, Rev. Max Grubb of First Christian Church in McAllen, for presiding over the funeral. Like all church leaders, he helps so much by counseling as well as preaching.
When parents keep dreaming and worrying about a lost offspring, there is another road to take toward reality. That is to go to any good library and read books about how to face death.
The McAllen Library has close to 200 books about how to cope with death. This surprised a veteran reader of library books. I never knew there were that many, and never had read any of that long list. They offer all types of advice, some contradicting the others.
A big library like McAllen’s will give good advice to most people who have trouble coping with a death. I read four of the books and may read more, if needing reinforcement in the new year.
Two fascinating books are “How Should One Cope with Death?” and “Men and Grief.” Yet all these specialized books can help many a broken heart repair itself.
There are all sorts of books explaining most of the possibilities. Of course there are many, but each book offers some aid to the readers.
The odd thing is, I never knew that kind of books were there, after using the McAllen Library starting in 1944 to read uncounted books from many shelves.
When the time comes, remember that a library might be just the thing to lead you to better days ahead. Library workers are excellent aids to help you, and seem exceptionally sensitive for persons seeking relief.